"The problem here is a totalitarian uniformity, a cult-like mentality such that even allies are enemies if they fail to follow the Exact Party Line. " - Phyllis Chesler

Sunday, January 27, 2008

To Dump Or Not To Dump? What Do You Think?

I am very on the fence about this Mad Scientist. I am so grateful for his presence in my life. He has basically treated me kindly, although showed a temper about the miscommunication on the belief I invited him to my neighborhood to have sex with him. I don't think he is malicious. I don't think he is a DTM at all. I think he is a nice, sweet, well-meaning man.

I also don't think that things are going as they should when two people are attracted to and like each other. I think it is odd that a man who likes a woman looks at his watch for the next train he can catch, and then also talks about the next time they can get together.

I also think that it is NOT a good sign when the bloke is still logging into JDate every damn day and changed his profile 13 days ago as well. I am no longer a member so I cannot see very much when I do log on. I figured that two months was time enough and that it would just be the same people ignoring the same people and better to let my money or lack thereof go to other things for a while.

I can however, log on and look at profiles which will tell you when the last time that person logged on. I can also see who has looked at me and he hasn't looked at my profile to check up on me in the least.

On our Friday date, he made a comment that led me to believe he still in some way blames me for his anger for the entire sex/no sex issue. He certainly doesn't see it as a good sign, that is for sure but worse, attaches this to me and not himself. And that notion just doesn't sit well with me at all. He told me something to the effect that he does get angry at work but usually does not in his personal life.

OH REALLY NOW! Is that so! So I am somehow responsible for how you handle your feelings? It couldn't possibly be something inside of you now, Mr. Mad Scientist and the situation brought it out of you, and not ME???

Well, that really wasn't the reason I am writing this post...I write because I really want your thoughts on whether or not I should put the kabosh on this now before I get hurt or let it play out and see what his next move is, which could very well be to end things anyway.


Perplexio said...

I'd play it out a little longer to see where things go, but if they don't start to improve then maybe it is time to put the kabosh on it.

Anonymous said...

Play it a little longer with some pressure on him..no response Gonzo..your got to much going for you...to get stuck...damn if I was 25 years younger I would make a play for you....:))))))))))

Lauren said...

Thanks Darrin and Robert.

So Robert, my question is then, please explain how I should pressure this man properly? I have always heard this is something men hate and that they will surely run. We have had three dates in two weeks. I don't expect a proposal but I obviously do expect more than this and it seems both you and Darrin agree.

I agree, too bad you aren't 25 years younger! :)

Robert:Please feel free to email me at canubapartofmylife@gmail.com

PS- Still no friggin call since Friday.