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Friday, January 18, 2008

How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less

I JUST heard the author of How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less, speak on the Today show this morning. Bells went off in my head. All my requests to the universe to PLEASE tell me what to say on dates to get the ball rolling, sound interesting and have a good time is paying off. First with Darrin's suggestions, then finding those great questions I posted earlier this week and now this book.

Nicolas Boothman, the author of this book, explained that when you first meet people a great way to start a conversation is first with a statement and then a follow-up question like: New York is a great city. (statement) If you only had one day to spend in New York City, what would be the ONE thing you did? (questions)

Simple yet brilliant. TADA!

Here's the synopsis given on Barnes and Noble.com's website:

How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less is the work of a master of Neuro-Linguistic Programming whose career is teaching corporations and groups the secrets of successful face-to-face communication. Aimed at establishing rapport-that stage between meeting and communicating-How to Make People Like You focuses on the concept of synchrony. It shows how to synchronize attitude, synchronize body language, and synchronize voice tone so that you instantly and imperceptibly become someone the other person likes. Reinforcing these easy-to-learn skills is knowing how to read the other person's sensory preferences-most of us are visual, some are kinesthetic, and a minority are auditory. So when you say "I see what you mean" to visual person, you're really speaking his language. Along the way the book covers attitude, nervousness, words that open a conversation and words that shut it down, compliments, eye cues, magic of opposites attracting, and more. It's how to make the best of the most important 90 seconds in any relationship, business or personal.

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