Drowsey has it right. This IS like a science experiment only it's real...my real life. And I am beginning to understand Barbara a little more, although I don't fully agree with all of her conclusions. I personally cannot believe I am even in a position to do something like this. I must have been living with blinders before the age of 35...oops I forgot I haven't turned that age yet. I am now and forever 31.
Last night I logged onto my online dating profile and made myself 5 years younger. Low and behold look what shows in MY MATCHES: 41, 39, 42 and 38. To be fair ONE of these men did ask for women closer to his age and I talked with him many months ago. We just weren't a good match for each other.
Next I opened up the window to show who has been looking at my profile now that I am suddenly 5 years younger:
<----This guy I had coffee with today. I will write more about HIM later. OY VEY! Now look at coffee guy, who made a joke about how women always make up names for the guys they are seeing to speak about with their girlfriends, and funny enough, that is about the only analyzation of me he got right today. I will call him as promised "super jew" just because it sounds so funny. It's kind of like calling a fat person slim for a nick name. Look closely at his age. Now look at his "My Ideal Match"
He will go with a SMOKER and doesn't care if the person is divorced, separated or widowed but not a woman over 35. Now to be somewhat fair he is 34, but he does list 35. And if you are thinking it is because these are manufactured age ranges you have to choose from, think again. Here's someone else's age range choice.
Amongst other things that I learned about "Super Jew" in our one and half hour date, he strongly feels that it is very important to have shared values for a lifelong mate to the point that simply really enjoying dating a women and finding her fun and attractive is not enough to make him want to take it to the next level. OH REALLY NOW. So a non-smoker will date a smoker as long as she is under 35...how's that for shared values. LIAR!
This man told me he has a girl "friend" whom he is going to go on a trip to Africa with, but they are "just friends". And although he would love to hook up with her (oh yes he told me this) he knows they would not be a good match in the long run because they don't share values. OK I ask what is it exactly since he told me he loves spending time with her and thinks she is hot. Well, she has time issues...you see if he calls her on a Monday for plans for Wednesday, she has told him it isn't enough time in advance to ask her for plans.
28-36 age range
Now here's a guy that looked at me sometime since I made myself 31. He is 38 YET this asshole wants to date women 25-35. He won't even consider dating someone 36-38. 35 is the OLDEST he will consider, YET he will date someone who smokes.
So basically a smoker is more desireable than I am simply because I am over 35 And this is not a young guy mind you. He is OLDER THAN I AM!
Stay tuned as I am going to write my thoughts about the actual coffee date I had today with "Super Jew".