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Saturday, March 7, 2009

My Dating Personality Test Results


I bit the bullet...again. I signed up for yet another dating site. Gotta be in it to win it right?
I saw an advertisement for this site when I got off the train in the city the other day. It's free and had a funny way about it. I'm not saying anymore...

As I began putting my profile together it required that I take a dating personality test. Here's the results.

Penny for YOUR thoughts on this!

Your Chemistry Test Results

Self-Confidence

As someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.

The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.

Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.


Family Orientation

As someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.

You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.

What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.


Self-Control

The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.

As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.

Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.


Openness

As someone with a low score in openness, you are down to earth and prefer fact to fiction. It’s likely you don’t particularly enjoy the arts because it’s not always clear whether it has any practical use. Moreover, you probably don’t consider yourself to be a very emotional person because you tend to focus attention on concrete goals and objectives, so there’s no real reason to get too upset about anything because such worrying will not change anything.

Rather than day-dreaming and playing with abstract concepts and ideas, you prefer thinking and talking about concrete issues where a clear answer or decision can be made. That is, you tend to think more logically and methodically about most things. Thus, it is likely that you prefer working on projects where there are clear instructions and objectives; you may find it difficult and pointless to work on projects that require too much creative thinking.

This propensity can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are clear rules about how to solve a particular problem, your ability to follow instructions makes it easy for you to accomplish your work and excel. In contrast, you may be easily overwhelmed and frustrated when working on projects that have no clear solution.


Easygoingness

Easygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to work very hard and accomplish a great deal. The benefits of being low in easygoingness are that you achieve high levels of success through deliberate planning, persistence, and hard work. Your colleagues and friends also likely consider you as intelligent and reliable.

However, your strong work ethic may lead others to perceive you as a perfectionist. This could produce stress in a few ways. For example, you may find it difficult to continually accomplish the high standards that you set for yourself and people you work with might find it overwhelming. In this way, being low in easygoingness can make both your life and the lives of the people around you difficult. Being very conscientious may also make it difficult for you to sit back and just relax because you may be too preoccupied with work-related issues.

Low easygoingness may diminish the quality of your social relationships too. Your propensity to work very hard and for long hours may make it difficult for you to attend to other aspects of life where there are no real goals to accomplish. Nevertheless, you will likely never be criticized for being unreliable or unable to follow instructions. Yet, you might find yourself feeling burned out from too much work.


How does your personality affect your love life?


Given the strong degree of confidence that you have, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.

Further, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life. Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club.

As someone who is more relaxed than most people, chances are that your friends and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling. Moreover, your level of conventionality might make it difficult for you to tolerate people with beliefs different from your own. Although such people might be fun on first dates, once you begin talking about serious issues, you might find their unorthodoxy unsettling and even offensive.

7 comments:

Mum-me said...

Wow! What a process you must have gone through to get such a detailed assessment! Did the test take 3 days?

I don't know you personally so can't comment on it's accuracy, but from reading through it you sound like a very confident, happy person to be around.

Chat Blanc said...

I think there's some good stuff in there! Appreciate the positives and just remember that this profile doesn't determine how you WILL be when dating. You still have total control over that. You're always learning and growing. Some awesome guy out there will appreciate that. :)

A New Yorker said...

@mum-me -- it was a pain in the ass to do. I found the results funny and a bit contradictory but maybe that IS who I am, funny and contradictory??

@chatty -- There is? Where...show me show me ;)

@Diana Banana -- I dunno. You tell me...you guys know me long enough. LOL

Unknown said...

goodluck with the dating site stuff..

Babs-beetle said...

Wow! That's some test! I guess you do come across as a family orientated person, and you do appear to have plenty of confidence. Only you and personal friends or family can really know if this is all correct though.

swilek said...

okay, i'm curious to know what this dating website is and would love to try it too...it would be fun to sort of do it together in different countries and see what happens! it is a detailed description...how well does it reflect you? usually they are mostly accurate which i always find amazing..but i know you know who you are!!:) you go girl! you have a ton to offer!

lot 2 learn said...

After looking at your pic, and reading your profile, I can't believe your a single gal. With so much to offer, I hope you find someone as special as you are