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Thursday, March 5, 2009

Some Simple Truths

Some people will always be invested in your being miserable & unhappy.

I started to Tweet on Twitter a few months ago. I'm quite enjoying it for the most part. But there are people there who are vapires. What's a vampire? A person whose purpose is to suck the life out of you and use it for their own life.

Take the guy who calls himself the Female Whisperer. Just the name invokes such toxic bullshit I can barely type it without the need to vomit.

Sure the guy has about 23 thousands followers...all hopeless single people who he baits to follow him with his mental manipulations of the hopelessness of each of those people. (he found me and I gave him a courtesy follow back)

When I mentioned that the key to finding someone compatible was to end the deceitful games, for shame, I showed I had a brain, and even broke the cardinal sin of this man who only minutes before was telling me how I was a quality woman. My stock plummeted. And I was opinionated and negative.

I was pressed about what games meant. And I went on to say that you should just be yourself. And I was told "How's being yourself working for you so far?"

Can you say manipulative????

So let's just think about this for a moment boys and girls...the golden guru of women has more than 23K followers looking for love, and none of them can hook up and find each other and connect???? Doesn't sound like a great record to me.

So here's some pointers from a gal who's been around the single world (longer than she ever though she would) but has really learned from her experiences (and years of therapy haha):

If you're spending time attempting to be someone you are not, you're playing games, fooling mostly yourself and frauding the other person. What happens when you commit to that other person....how long can you keep up the lie? It's exhausting and not worth it.

Everyone has a little freaky in them. Maybe you are a bit too into your comic books, or Star Wars...so long as you don't live in Momma's basement most women will see past that. ;)

Let go of the past! Most single people are playing out issues that happened with their last relationship with, well, THE WRONG PERSON, the person they are currently with. Can you say sabatoge?

And lastly, stop dating like your shopping for an accessory.


lot 2 learn said...

Sounds like some great advice. One thing I would like to add is to stop looking. Sometimes the the best things are right in front of you and you never see them because people are always scanning the horizon looking for something better. As always, thanks for a great read : )

Anonymous said...

I think I know who you are talking about on Twitter and I find his posts ridiculous. What I want to know if 1. how does he have credibility to tell people how to get girls (he rarely talks to females), and 2. is he in a committed relationship or is he one of those players?

Beetle said...

I think that if it's the topic of every conversation you have, there is something wrong. If that's all he tweets about, I think he's sad. I agree with 'lot 2 learn' - stop searching and it will come to you when you least expect it. As you say, be who you really are!

Aleta said...

Female Whisperer - GAG - that set the tone right away for me. What an idiot. Sorry, I don't say that too often about a person, but please! As if!

Lauren said...

@lot2learn I stopped looking a long time ago...still no one hiding under my nose ;)

@jewishdating I forgot his name already. he's married. he's a bore.

@beetle - I think he tweets for his biz which is people to set up. Pathetic.

@Aleta - GAG with ya toots!

Rob Taylor said...

The female whisperer!?! Really?

Wow. people really do suck out there right?

Lauren said...

@rob - LMAO at your comment. Yep he actually wrote that on his twitter bio. Thanks for popping by.