"The problem here is a totalitarian uniformity, a cult-like mentality such that even allies are enemies if they fail to follow the Exact Party Line. " - Phyllis Chesler

Friday, November 27, 2009

Double Standard Answers To My Dating Tweets I Find Ironic

A few days ago I posted this dating story and a male follower tweeted me back: "he is honest though and thats a good thing."

Why is it that when I'm asked what it is I want and I list my wants I often hear: "Do you think you're a little picky?" 

Why am I not "at least honest and that's a good thing" ?

Here's what I list:

Depth of character and an appealing personality are more important to me than a man's job title and social status. I have a hearty and infectious laugh. Hopefully we'll be laughing a lot together. I'm going to be attracted to the man who understands that I'm going to challenge him. If you spend enough time with me you're gonna hear the F word. I'm going to show you my lunatic side. Jewish and living in or around NYC a must.  I'm looking for an honest man. Intellectually challenging but not a blow-hard about it. Degrees, Ivy-League, and world travelling don't impress me. Character is the key. Kindness and a willingness to share in his knowledge and ideas a must. My list of adjectives or must-haves is short: You have depth of character and insight about the world. You’re grounded in spirituality, but not religious. We have compatible views, and where we might differ you respect mine. Easy right?  I’ve found happiness and contentment in my life. I think I’m just missing you. If you want to know more – and of course there’s much more to know – get in touch! Let’s find out!


Aleta said...

I like your list! Stay true to you!

Anonymous said...

Picky, huh? Any man that tells you that you are too "picky" is actually telling you that He doesn't conform to what you want.

You want what you want, and you aren't settling for less. That is a quality to praise, not belittle. And If they don't like your "pickiness", then to hell with them!