tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6742667886912606708.post9030487864887464855..comments2023-10-20T05:36:23.587-04:00Comments on Can You Be A Part Of My Life: Sex, Lies, & TigersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6742667886912606708.post-43387424347726810552009-12-12T20:57:22.934-05:002009-12-12T20:57:22.934-05:00My friend, Lauren, asked me if I would post my com...My friend, Lauren, asked me if I would post my comments. So here goes -<br /><br />Re. Phyllis Chesler's article:<br /><br />1. "...locker-room like release of tension..." <br /><br />Is this a Phyllis Chesler euphemism for masturbation? If it is, I am not sure Phyllis has ever been in a men's locker-room. Having been in locker-rooms throughout my life, this would never be tolerated. The offender would have been immediately bodily ejected.<br /><br />2. (Pg. 2 at top) "All women — indeed, even our precious little girls — exist for One. Thing. Only." <br /><br />This has me mystified. Does Phyllis mean that all women are for sexual exploitation, vessels for ejaculation, or some other meaning that escapes me?<br /><br /><br />These two areas of Phyllis Chesler's article gave me the feeling that she sees the sexual interactions of men and women through a jaundiced eye.<br /><br />---<br /><br />Re. my own experience:<br /><br />Maybe the men I know have higher morals or maybe it's me. <br /><br />Women, married or not, will often unabashedly flirt. It seems that temptations have always been front and center. Then it becomes a test as to what to do and remain polite. If that doesn't work, you become impolite, forceful, and say NO. If you just listen to your desires, you will do stupid things that will never go away. A man's penis can always get him in trouble.<br /><br />Parents, fathers especially, affect how sons and daughters see themselves. Expectations, like water, seek the lowest level. If a father just 'winks and nods' at his son's sexual indiscretions, the son will grow up treating women with disdain. If a mother thinks that teenage birth control is the answer to parenting, the daughter will have a cheapened outlook towards the value and importance of the gift of sexual intimacy.<br /><br />I know that some of my ideas may require explaining, but let me end with the following.<br /><br />My 2 sisters, my brother, and I grew up with an unwritten code of conduct. This was passed on from parents, family, church, school, and community. We were expected to act a certain way. We were expected to treat people and property with respect. My bother and I were expected to be respectful of women.<br /><br />When I developed an interest in girls, my father told me that boys and men who discuss their girlfriends and wives in the locker-room are braggarts and liars. Not only do they demean their girlfriends and wives, but they also debase themselves. Experience has proven his words true.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14809458053987431412noreply@blogger.com